Before you get dressed, choose three words that describe how you want to feel that day.

Then, get dressed with those feelings in mind.

Instead of asking, What looks good? What’s trendy? What will other people think? you start with a different question:

The Looking & Feeling Mindsets

Every morning when we get dressed, we can approach our closets in two different ways.

The Looking Mindset: How do I want to look?

 The Feeling Mindset: How do I want to feel?

Neither is inherently bad. Of course we care about how we look. Fashion is visual, and wanting to look beautiful, cool, professional, or stylish is part of the fun.

The problem comes when looking becomes the priority.

The Looking Mindset

The Looking Mindset happens when we get dressed with other people in mind.

Will they think this is cute? Is this trendy? Is this too much? Do I look cool?

When we dress primarily for how other people might see us, we give their opinions a lot of power. Sometimes without even realizing we’re doing it.

How do I want to feel today?

That small shift can completely change the experience of getting dressed.

You start looking at the clothes you already own differently. A red sweater might make you feel bold. Metal jewelry might make you feel put together. An old T-shirt might make you feel comfortable and grounded.

Clothes can’t control your mood. But they can be reminders.

Our days can be unpredictable, our minds wander, our to-do lists grow. A stressful email comes in, plans change, and the intentions we had that morning can disappear pretty quickly.

Your clothes stay with you through the day.

When you catch a glimpse of your outfit later that day, it can bring you back to the feelings you chose that morning.

One member of the 3FM community, put it simply:

“When I feel off track, I think about my clothes and my intentions.”

That’s what I love about the method.

Getting dressed is something most of us already do every day. 

3FM turns that moment into an opportunity to bring more meaning into your day.

You’re still getting dressed.

You’re just starting with how you want to feel.